When you are expecting a baby, you experience "pregnancy hormones". I believe there is a similar parallel with adoption!:) I'm just more emotional and sensitive to things lately, and it reminds me of how I felt when I was physically carrying a child. I remember one instance when I was pregnant with our youngest son, a woman came up to me at the mall (seeing I had two other little guys) and said "are you hoping for a girl this time"? Bless her heart. That is a logical, innocent question, I know.:) However, after 3 miscarriages and 6 months of surging hormones, I felt offended. I said "no, not necessarily, we are just hoping for a healthy baby!". That poor woman. She was the recipient of my knee-jerk reaction of frustration.
Well, I've noticed that old, defensive instinct kick in again this week. As we have announced the news to family and friends that we are adopting from Poland, some comments have surprised us. While the vast majority have been supportive and loving, some have not been. This week I've received the following comments: "Why aren't you adopting from the U.S."? "Have you considered adopting an African American child? They really have the greatest need right now". "Do you feel like you will be able to handle an adopted child with your three boys"?
Although it's hurtful, I think the Lord has blessed me this time around with dose of blissful indifference, but it has also opened my eyes to some of the negative thoughts about adoption. I feel like some people are all for adoption, as long as it fits their terms of what a family should look like, or whom they think we should adopt. I believe, in a similar way that God knits together a child in the womb, he also knits together families in only a fashion that He could've ordained. Oprhans are crying out from all corners of the Earth for a loving family. The Lord just happened to lead us to Poland, and that is the short answer. I'm trying to be more gracious this time around than I was with the poor lady at the mall. I realize though, that these "hormones" are just part of the process, and I believe they are validated. I wonder if I'll get "adoption cravings" too? I could go for some Paczki (Poonchkies)!:)
Going private soon.....
9 years ago